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Narcissistic parents can make custody decisions seem impossible

Going through divorce can be tough under any circumstances. Of course, certain details of a particular situation could make the process seem even more daunting. When children are involved, many California parents may want to make the best custody decisions possible and in a timely manner. However, if one parent is a narcissist, it could make the proceedings difficult.

When individuals are considered narcissistic, they usually think very highly of themselves, diminish others to make themselves look better, lack empathy and have a sense of entitlement. These personality traits may have triggered the need for divorce in the first place. Unfortunately, when it comes to the kids, dealing with a narcissistic parent may make the idea of co-parenting seem impossible, and the narcissist may also attempt to win over the kids, even though he or she may not truly care for the kids' feelings or desires over his or her own.

Seeking revenge after filing for divorce may backfire

Deciding to end a marriage can come about for many reasons. Some California residents may find themselves filing for divorce because a spouse had an affair or otherwise hurt them in a significant way. Many people may even find the divorce filing itself hurtful if it seemed unexpected. As a result, it is not unusual for individuals to enter into this process feeling emotionally charged.

Because the outcomes of divorce can have major impacts on life for many years, individuals often want to work toward the most beneficial settlements possible. However, if someone is feeling hurt and vengeful, he or she may think that fighting for settlement terms that cause hardships for the other person will make for a satisfying outcome. This idea may not work out the way one might hope.

Divorce process agreement should make child support terms binding

The expenses that come along with child-rearing can be substantial. However, many California couples may have felt confident in their abilities to afford children on both of their incomes before actually having kids. Unfortunately, that feeling may have changed when the marriage was no longer working, and parents ended up facing the divorce process. One of their main concerns may have been child support.

Though child support is often needed after one parent obtains primary custody of the children, it is not always easy to come by. A divorce settlement may dictate which parent has the responsibility of making support payments and for how much, but that parent may not always adhere to these terms. In fact, information released from the U.S. Census Bureau indicated that in 2015, three out of 10 custodial parents did not obtain any child support.

What is gray divorce?

A relatively new term is becoming increasingly common these days: gray divorce. This term refers to couples who divorce in their later years, hence the term gray, as a play on the concept of gray hair that comes later in life. 

Many couples who embark on a gray divorce are separating after a long marriage together, generally 20 years or more. This can bring particular issues and complications to consider that couples in their younger years or in shorter marriages do not necessarily face. 

Unhappiness may have some California residents filing for divorce

Unhappiness can often lead many California residents to re-evaluate certain aspects of their lives. They may consider making substantial changes if they feel that they are stuck in a situation that is contributing to their lack of fulfillment and joy. In some cases, some parties may believe that filing for divorce will help them pursue a more enjoyable life, but they may also wonder if they have reason to leave.

While unhappiness in and of itself could be reason enough to end a marriage, some parties may also face other considerations. For instance, certain factors such as unfaithfulness could easily play into the feelings of unhappiness. If a spouse continually has extramarital affairs, the other individual may feel as if his or her worth is diminished or that the marriage is not a source of love as it once was.

Business owners facing divorce may need to take precautions

As business owners, many California residents likely understand the importance of keeping business affairs in manageable order. Any number of events could throw a wrench in operations that may have otherwise been running smoothly. For business owners facing divorce, taking steps to protect business interests may be worth the time and effort.

Even before the potential for divorce arises, if owners marry, they may want to ensure that they create agreements in relation to their marriage and the business. If more than one person owns the business, ownership agreements could help parties avoid fallout from another owner's personal issues. For the marrying owner, a prenuptial agreement could help avoid negative impacts that divorce could have on business assets.

Property division process: Should keeping the home be a goal?

Making decisions regarding how a divorcing couple should divvy up their assets can be complex. It is not unusual for individuals to have attachments to certain items and feel the need to negotiate harder for those particular pieces of property. However, California residents may wish to consider how the outcomes of the property division process could impact their futures before staying set on obtaining a certain asset.

Specifically, the family home can be a conflicting item. The house can often cause issues as there are both emotional and financial ramifications to consider. Some individuals may feel particularly attached to the home due to their children growing up there, and other emotions such as guilt and anxiety may also come into play. A parent may not want to give up the home due to potentially feeling guilty over uprooting the kids, or that person may not want to go through the anxiety-inducing process of home searching and moving.

Breaking divorce news, making custody decisions have challenges

Many California parents worry about how their decisions will impact their children. From daily choices regarding discipline and rewards to major live changes such as divorce and custody decisions, it is not unusual for parents to wonder whether they are doing a good job. With divorce in particular, parents may lie awake trying to decide how to tell their kids the news.

For parents, the idea of divorce may not have been a new one. Issues within the marriage itself may have resulted in this decision being a long time coming. However, for children, this news could seem like it is coming completely out of nowhere. As a result, they may react harshly to the news and not immediately understand what it means.

Georgina Chapman may soon file high-asset divorce petition

After years of marriage, some California couples may choose to end their relationships for personal reasons. If those individuals are considerably wealthy, they may face a high\-asset divorce, which could present complications when it comes to property division, spousal support and other financial aspects of the case. Many parties with a substantial amount of wealth choose to create prenuptial agreements to address these areas prior to getting married.

Georgina Chapman and Harvey Weinstein created such an agreement before they married 10 years ago. As part of that agreement, spousal support terms were set, and according to reports, Chapman is in line to obtain $400,000 in alimony for the next 10 years, which coincides with the length of time the couple has remained married. Though Chapman has apparently expressed the desire to end her marriage after the numerous allegations of sexual harassment made against her husband, she has not yet filed a petition.

3 reasons for the increase in gray divorces

The divorce rate remains high in the United States, and a primary demographic responsible for those high numbers is baby boomers. When married couples over the age of 50 divorce, it becomes referred to as "gray divorce." According to data compiled by Reuters, divorce attorneys have seen a 61 percent increase in the number of baby boomers filing for divorce in recent years. 

Divorce is not merely for the young or those who have only been married for a few years. Many couples who have been together for 20, 30 or even 40 years are beginning to call it quits. This may seem odd, but there good reasons why older Californians divorce at higher rates than other demographics. 

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